Four important words

It has been eight years since my older brother and his wife sent me an email saying that they ‘disapproved of ninety nine percent of my decisions,’ did not like me as a person, were removing me from their ‘friends/family list’ and, most importantly, would ‘no longer associate with Locketts.’

This meant that they had also disowned their then-thirteen-year-old niece and my husband. Both ‘Locketts.’ The sentence was supposed to insult and to sting and it did so completely. They knew that it would. To be described as ‘Locketts’ dehumanised the three of us, turned us into creatures or things not…